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Well I felt as exposed reading this as you did reading the book-- so onto my TBR it goes. I have also always thought of my reluctance to ask for help or be an inconvenience as a strength, a gift to those in my life who are frequently being asked by others for the things I don't. I even realized very recently that not being an inconvenience is part of my identity and I don't know how to feel valuable if I am not easy. Thank you for writing this and helping fellow Parisian Perfectionists learn a healthier way!

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This was so well said, Michal. “I don’t know how to feel valuable if I am not easy” just has me nodding along with you! Here’s to grace + progress 💛

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Jun 3, 2023Liked by Jill Atogwe

I am an enneagram 6 like you so I read carefully when you write stuff like this. So good! Thankful for you!

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Us sixes are all intertwined, aren’t we?? Thanks, Haley!

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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Jill Atogwe

Stache sweat 😂 always look forward to the top favs for the month and fun treats to try :)

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I’m so glad, Megan!

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This book is going on my list immediately!!!! Jill this post spoke so deeply to me.

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I didn’t think I needed it but my goodness, was I wrong!

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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Jill Atogwe

I purchased the zip up sweatshirt from Abercrombie in the first summer capsule you posted last week - which btw, captured my style perfectly - and I’ve been cranking the AC so I can wear it! The quality is amazing, it’s insanely comfortable, flattering and the perfect casual comfy piece that doesn’t make me feel like a slob.

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I LOVE hearing this, Andrea!! And come Fall, I love wearing those sort of half-zips with high waisted ankle length jeans. It’s just the ultimate “I didn’t try but man, I look put together” outfit 👏🏾

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Jun 2, 2023Liked by Jill Atogwe

Well, that NPR quiz was fun... I'm mostly a classic perfectionist with 29% Parisian perfectionist. I may have to grab that book now!

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Hiighhlyyy recommend!

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This just hits home! I don’t know what makes it so hard to ask for or even accept help but I totally resonate with it! I’m going to have to read that book 👏🏽

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👏🏾👏🏾

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parisian & procrastinator 😭 the parisian definitely reflects my enneagram 2-ness. i’m gonna see if i can borrow that book on libby. thank you for the recommendation! also, your writing is just so wonderful. i enjoy your substack so much :)

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it’s an 11 week wait! it’ll be a wonderful book to start the fall season :)

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Thank you so much, Francine! It’ll absolutely be worth the wait!!

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I think I need to read that book! I related heavily to you in the whole people-pleasing, checking in a million times when someone helps me out, not wanting to ask for help, feeling guilty easily etc etc.

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Yesss. I didn’t know how much I needed if!

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